How do you know if you should save the marriage? I mean I know that this is a community committed to the idea that the default should be to save the marriage. I appreciate that. But not all should be saved right? I know MWD would argue that unless there is abuse or whatever that the marriage should be saved. But do you guys have doubts? I would love to hear from someone who has wrestled with if rather than just how a marriage should be saved.
Everyone has to wrestle and answer that for him/herself. For my part, I have given up. I am done. I have gotten no results DBing with my wife. She chose to leave before and instead of telling me there was a problem first. She left rather than stay and repair. We were very soulmate-close and always did whatever it took to smooth over bumps in our path as they came along.Not this time. She left. She is a completely different, cold and distant person. and I am now at the point of just deeply, deeply disappointed in her and I don't want the person she's become back.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
