I've posted some updates on my Infidelity thread, Burt. Things couldn't be better! Separating was the best thing that ever happened to my sex life -- AND my marriage -- and we're back together 90%+ of the time now. We found a great MC, and frankly, my biggest challenge now is to learn to SLOW DOWN and not let all the good stuff happen too fast, as I do NOT want to fall back into our old, SSM patterns.