Trying to save my M. W not really trying though.

[dburt]

If you are still getting sick, have you gotten on any meds?

Burt

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Yeah, I chould've been more positive when she asked me how I was doing. But she sees me running to the bathroom in the middle of the night sick to my stomach, just about every night...so I think she knows how I'm feeling.

Ugh, that's not good. How is she seeing that? You need to hide that, dude.

The first time my wife saw me crying (ok, I"ll admit: I wanted her to see it ON PURPOSE), I think it was actually GOOD. It gave her a sense of the depth of my pain, and how much I cared.

After once? Unh-uh . . . not good. It conveys "neediness," and neediness is never attractive, esp. to women.

Puppy

[Puppy Dog Tails]

One can NEVER prepare for D. There's a few folks here and there on some of the boards carrying a "o-well if it ends that way attitude, I've got myself covered", but I'll guarentee you, if and when that day comes for them, they'll be crying so hard it's like they shot "Old Yeller' themselves.

Oh, man, Dday that whole post was classic. Did you make that last part up yourself? That's hilarious -- and true!!

Puppy

[etrain]

Thanks dday.
I've already been thinking of ways to "de-wife" the house...rearranging furniture, painting, redecorating, etc. All the pictures are definitely coming down.

[dday101798]

Oh, man, Dday that whole post was classic. Did you make that last part up yourself? That's hilarious -- and true!!

Of course, a little thought breaking humor NEEDS to be injected here and there.

[etrain]

If you are still getting sick, have you gotten on any meds?

Started taking Zoloft about 10 days ago. It's helped a little but I still have stomach issues.

[etrain]

Ugh, that's not good. How is she seeing that? You need to hide that, dude.

Well, we've been sleeping in the same bed up until last night. I'm sure she feels/hears me getting out of bed during the middle of the night & going to our bathroom. Trust me, I don't advertise where I'm going but I'm sure she can figure it out.
I hear her doing the same thing some nights.
We've actually joked about how much weight we've both lost during this ordeal.

She's only seen me crying once....the morning after "the bomb".

[dday101798]

Thanks dday.
I've already been thinking of ways to "de-wife" the house...rearranging furniture, painting, redecorating, etc. All the pictures are definitely coming down.

Yeah, somethings don't even have to be that elaborate. I had this plant on the kitchen counter that XW insisted had to be there. The dang thing was so overgrown and took up so much space (to say anything of the potential health implications), I was releaved to finally move it to a more suited location. And there wasn't anything she could say about it, and then when she realized it had moved one time when she came over, I got the, "wow, that looks a lot better there". To which, the moment she turned her back, she got a nice "Archie Bunker finger trumpet".

[etrain]

e,

Just remember as I had to scour through the boards here this morning to remind myself, DB'ing is about YOU, not your M, not your W, YOU.

Definately, use the time seperated to screw your head back on straight.

What you can do, is the whole purpose, become a better YOU. It's an adage in any situation, the more you're comfortable with yourself, the more others will be comfortable with you.

Just re-read this post. So true. I'm still having a hard time GAL'ing. I've always been a quiet person but I'm trying. I'm taking our S to church every Sunday. I try to schedule at least 1 thing to do with friends/family every weekend. But there are always going to be those weekday evenings where I'm just moping around...especially with winter coming up. I'll try to keep myself busy by exercising and working on some house projects I've been planning. But what I really need is to go out & socialize a bit. Difficult since all my friends are married & have their own families to worry about.

This GAL'ing is tough!

[dday101798]

This GAL'ing is tough!

Yeah, it certainly can be. Funny, when we were all teenagers, it wasn't so hard to find things to do and places to meet new people. Why in the blazes is so hard now?

Just keep up for yourself, don't let anything your W says, or doesn't say for the matter get to you. I noticed in your other thread you said that W still hasn't made an uproar about you contacting OMW. Well, maybe she's pulling a fast one on you, and not letting you get a rise out of her.

It's a screwy, screwy messed up game, and certainly not anything any of us ever envisioned.

Like I said, I've been doing this for far too long now, and still lose sight of my goals from time to time.

Heh, nice part about the winter is, when is M'd, I never had time or desire to watch much TV, really any at all but the news. Now, well, I have 11 years of missed TV to make up for on those dragging nights.