Sigh, I took a massive leap out of my comfort zone today with h and basically said said no (without using the actual word) to him today which feels very weird and strange.
He emailed me as he had received news that bailiffs were about to be sent round to his house regarding money outstanding on the house insurance (it was one of the bills that he did not call to cancel when we sold). I had cancelled the direct debit as I was paying it (with no contribution from him although by rights he should have been) but could not cancel the policy as it was not in my name. I knew he would not cancel it but felt it was no longer my responsibility to spoon feed. Anyway, he had not received the warning letters as he had not forwarded his post to his new address and now it had reached the bailiffs. He emailed me to ask me for half towards the bill (£50).
I wrote back and in the nicest possible way said the fairest thing would be to offset the £50 against the various monthly credit cards and insurances which I paid in full since he ceased to contribute to the ongoing expenses in November 08.
I don't know what he will do with that, or whether I should have just given him £50 for an easy life (which is what I was inclined to do) but I am sick of being a pushover. This is so out of my comfort zone it is untrue, but I have been so nice about everything, I could have caused a huge stink about so many things and I just kept quiet.
I don't know if I am venting or what. I don't really know if it was the right thing to do but I felt like he had a cheek to ask me for that and to call him on it I guess it was a 180.
P.S - Nell, I definately recommend fencing, it is so much fun!
