I got a reply from him in response to mine. More of the same old same old, I'm stopping them from getting extra sleep b/c he lives closer to the school (D9 says they wake up at the same time though in order to catch the bus). I'm trying to set them up to fail, etc.
Oh, yeah, plus I have all day now (well 9 to 2) and haven't found a job or employment, and he doesn't know what I'm doing with all my time now!
He says he didn't yell at me despite my refusal to give D9 her medicine (which is an out-an-out lie; he did yell & cuss and I did give her meds which she told me that she told him) and that he didn't pull D9 out of a moving car. Another lie. So I think it will be he-said she-said when we get in the courtroom. He's such an a$$. I'm just so tired of all this.
The problem with an emergency hearing is that at this point, it takes 1 to 2 months to get them, and we already have a hearing date of December 7th, which is about the soonest we could get into see the judge anyway. I also think he's going to lie about everything.
By e-mailing him, he now knows what you are thinking(as if he didn't already). He is going to paint you as a bad mother causing all these problems for your kids. He of course will be mr wonderful if not mr misunderstood. BARF
Of course he is going to lie. But I don't see how he can hide the fact that he forced you guys to lose your home and have your car repossed. And both of those things happened without him losing his job! Plus if they look at his financials, they should see all the trips he was taking with skank. I hope your L is good enough to drill these points home as well as how little time he has spent with the kids until it looked as if he might benefit finacially.
Hang in there. kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I hope your L is good enough to drill these points home as well as how little time he has spent with the kids until it looked as if he might benefit finacially.
Hang in there. kat
He also told me in the email that the reason he let me have the kids so much before is b/c I was homeschooling them and he was doing it for the best of the kids. That I don't do stuff for the best of the kids... I guess at least I'm prepared now for all the cr** I'm going to have to gag through in court...
Yep, he is going to lie about everything. Be prepared to be calm in response to all that he says and to say, "That is not true, Your Honor," and to have proof to back yourself up. You're right, it's going to get ugly. I hope your L is ready.
I couldn't believe the putrid way my XW acted in court and the things she conjoured up. And of course, whenever I'd confront her, her repsonse was it was the L's idea, or I didn't know, expecially when it came down to I was not to have ANY overnights with the boys, and only supervised visits. Yeah, that's how bad she tried to cut me out.
Oh, and all the while, OM was there for her to put on her show and cry on his shoulder, so expect to be seeing the skank there too.
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
All I can say is thank God I didn't have to go to court. Everything was done in my L's office and my xh didn't fight me about anything at all. I didn't have much to ask for anyway except the custody and he apparently didn't want that since it would cut into his precious personal time with the broom.
Do you have witnesses you can call regarding some of your h's antics?
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
Do you have witnesses you can call regarding some of your h's antics?
I asked the kids about the moving car incident and S15 didn't remember or pay attention. He's pretty seriously autistic, & maybe he tries to block out. I remember S15 actually smiling I think realizing his dad was being an a$$, but D9 was worried and concerned and asking questions like what's going on. She does remember it, but asking her to testify is not something I would want to do.
I don't have any witnesses that I know of to the school incident. I saw a couple kids walk by while he was cussing/yelling but I didn't know the specific kids or who they were. There was a teacher nearby that saw him following me maybe, right before it happened there is a gate/door by her room and I shut it almost in X's face b/c I was just trying to slow him down. Her classroom was about 10 feet away. I guess I could ask her if she saw it and if so how much she saw. He was in between the one classroom and the parking lot during most of it (I was walking towards my crossing guard friend the whole time, but he didn't see it he said. He was too far away. And if he had been there, X prob. wouldn't have done it.
Also, D9's grades/class info goes home on Monday nights which is when X has the kids. I had received the info the very first Monday before we switched, and I left the material/newsletter in D9's backpack for X to look at the following day (after I did).
One of D9's friends mentioned her 6 page book report maybe 9 or 10 days ago, and I talked to another mom in the class and she said the book report info had gone home a long time ago. Every spare minute we weren't at church or art club, D9 had to spend on the book report this weekend. I would have loved to have an extra few days even on it. And if D9's friend hadn't mentioned it, I doubt D9 would have had a book report tomorrow, and she would have been devastated as X hadn't helped her pick out a book or anything about it. She has another project due Tues. for science, and I didn't get that info either. I'm letting X do that with her since I didn't have time this weekend anyway and didn't have the info on it.
I was wanting to email X and ask him to provide me with the info for her projects/reports and her grades. I think both parents should know about her projects so they can help her out when at each home. D9 said something about a pie chart with her progress(don't know what that is) and there's the class newsletter I don't get from him.
He constantly emails how I don't want the kids to succeed in ps, but he does stuff like that, which seems like he's more interested in keeping me out of the loop than D9 getting her stuff done. I was thinking about emailing him that I need that info, and doing a blind copy to my L? Ideas on that?
Oh, and all the while, OM was there for her to put on her show and cry on his shoulder, so expect to be seeing the skank there too.
OK, that must have been such a total nightmare!!! Could my L bar her from the courtroom or something? I have calmed down I think a bit, just think she's a messed-up skanky ho, but I certainly don't want to have to spend a day looking at her trampy face. On 2nd thought, maybe I haven't calmed down as much as I thought???
I was wanting to email X and ask him to provide me with the info for her projects/reports and her grades. I think both parents should know about her projects so they can help her out when at each home. D9 said something about a pie chart with her progress(don't know what that is) and there's the class newsletter I don't get from him.
He constantly emails how I don't want the kids to succeed in ps, but he does stuff like that, which seems like he's more interested in keeping me out of the loop than D9 getting her stuff done. I was thinking about emailing him that I need that info, and doing a blind copy to my L? Ideas on that?
DO NOT e-mail him, especially based on your belief, go straight to the school! E-mail the home room teacher and cc all her others if applicable gently stressing taht you ARE NOT receiving the information being sent home. Keep ANY and ALL personal feelings out of it. This WILL show your interest in them succeeding as well as prevent any more potentail disasters in the regard of missing work. Karen, I made sure that was the first thing I did and I KNOW I told you to do so a long long time ago, why haven't you?!?! That's not going to look so good in court, get on it!
As far as barring OW from the court room, unfortunately not. Unless the judge sees her as a disruption, then she's more than welcome. I only got to have OM 'removed' when he budded into a negotiation between XW and mine's attorneys and BOTH attorney's told him to get lost.
Me 35/XW 33 S13 & S12 M: 10/17/98 OM & S: 07/08 D final 06/09/09 12/03/09 - 06/13/10 "Piercing" 06/13/10: Engaged to Re-marry 10/17/10 06/25/10: Expecting baby #3 2/14/11
E-mail the home room teacher and cc all her others if applicable gently stressing taht you ARE NOT receiving the information being sent home. Keep ANY and ALL personal feelings out of it. This WILL show your interest in them succeeding as well as prevent any more potentail disasters in the regard of missing work. Karen, I made sure that was the first thing I did and I KNOW I told you to do so a long long time ago, why haven't you?!?! That's not going to look so good in court, get on it!
Um, I screwed up? I prob. thought I would wait until after it was a problem or something. In retrospect, I agree you were 100% right!!! I followed your advice and didn't email X. I emailed her homeroom teacher and her science/math teacher after I read your post, and told them of the problem. Her homeroom teacher already knows b/c I was asking her about the book report less than 2 weeks ago asking her about the info and got a copy of it so D9 and I could work on it. I just asked them if they could copy me on the stuff her dad is getting on Mondays. Unfortunately the only day I don't pick up D9 is the day they've been sending stuff home!!!
Oh, X did forward me some good news Friday. S15's intensive reading teacher emailed him that of his 87 students, S15 scored the highest scores on their reading achievement tests they took a few weeks ago. Of course, X's view would be that 12 hours or so of reading class has been a dramatic improvement for S15 or something, but I think my 9 years of homeschooling him and teaching him to read may have had more to do with that!!!
I prob. thought I would wait until after it was a problem or something. In retrospect, I agree you were 100% right!!! I followed your advice and didn't email X. I emailed her homeroom teacher and her science/math teacher after I read your post, and told them of the problem. Her homeroom teacher already knows b/c I was asking her about the book report less than 2 weeks ago asking her about the info and got a copy of it so D9 and I could work on it. I just asked them if they could copy me on the stuff her dad is getting on Mondays. Unfortunately the only day I don't pick up D9 is the day they've been sending stuff home!!!