I know it's possible that my wife is having an affair of some sort with this man - or even another, but my gut just doesn't say so. And...my wife has always been the kind of person who believes two people can be friends regardless of their sexes. I believe she would be honest about it, since in her mind we are "only living together" and are only a "pseudo couple" - and she would feel no need to hide a new relationship.
Except for the little problem that ALL CHEATERS LIE -- period. That's a pesky one.
Absolutely agree with you on the "getting back to DB basics" and "creating mystique," tho. If you do those things, it really doesn't matter if she's having an affair or not. I'd just rather see you operate from an assumption that she IS, than to build yourself up for possible disappointment that she ISN'T, when she still seems foggy to me.
