She doesn't love me anymore...or does she?

[Ready2Change]

confused, you have been on this forum for two whole days and you are very dismissive of Puppy's observations. Why?

I think you should step back, take a deep breath, and stop talking to your w. She is very passive-aggressive so it will be difficult for you to get to any truths right now anyway. Her refusing to talk to you about how she feels about any given situation is very hostile.

And you say she's always been like that throughout your marriage? Gee, what a loving thing for a w to do to her h. Especially one who has always been supportive. You encourage her in her business, she becomes somewhat successful at it, and then turns even colder toward you? Ick!

Sad as it is, you have to face the fact that your w cannot be trusted now. You must protect yourself and stop telling her how you feel about her. It just makes you look needy and desperate.

Just detach from her as best you can. And I mean it when I say to stop talking to her. It will be a big 180 and may make her wonder what's up. You should become very mysterious to her right now. Go out and do things by yourself. It doesn't really matter what; go to a movie, bookstore, out with friends, etc. Do not give her any details about your outings either. Just be minimally polite with very short "yes" or "no" answers. DO NOT explain yourself to her. She supposedly has her own, independent life now, and so do you.

And since she wants her independence, let her pay for all of that herself. Marital assets are for MARITAL things, not for a wayward wife to indulge her childish activities without her h.

Do not leave your bed. Do not leave the house. Do not let her play the stay-at-home-mommy card to try to get custody of your daughter either. Just because she has a vagina is not a good enough reason for her to ask you to leave your home and cast you in the role of weekend dad.

You may think that what I am saying to you is a bit premature, but you can be sure that your w is light years ahead of you in the planning stages.

Get an attorney on retainer now. You don't have to file or anything, but it is a good idea to get your ducks in a row now, just in case....

Kimmi Lee is very wise. Read this again(Several times). It is very important to be open to what others say. The more you dismiss what others say, the longer you will suffer.