I emailed my FIL to let him know that I saw a little hope yesterday. I told him I wasn't sure if it was real, or just my wishful thinking.
He replied this morning that he saw the same thing. My W was much softer in her discussions with her sister (my FIL was at the table with them). She said she really appreciates me taking the kids to church. Her sister asked her a "trap" question, as my FIL put it..."How was the house when you were over there". My FIL went on to say that she could have thrown me under the bus with that question, but didn't.
Her response was: 'It looked like 3 kids lived there, just like it does when I am there'.
This is progress. I remain rooted in being patient. I remain committed to not jumping on an opportunity, but instead to maintain the status quo.
I can honestly say that I have seen improvement. I'm not in anyway ready to say I am not getting a divorce, that we are not going to file this week, etc... Just that the 'tip of the iceberg" has appeared to melt a little. For now, that is enough, and motivation to continue doing exactly what I have been doing.
Having my FIL validate my observations certainly helps.
I have not had any communications about NOT filing for divorce this week, so I am ready, almost, to do that if it comes. But I keep praying that it doesn't.
