And, no one can help me with that or even say anything that helps. Kinda like....yeah, you are pretty screwed with that, but make sure you tell him about the phone call....silly....
I think they could be related though. My X would hold info back from me to "protect" me. We had a codependent R, with X acting like my parent sometimes and treating me like a child. I couldn't handle the truth kind of thinking. i just think if you want to have a healthy R in all senses, sexual and otherwise, that might be something to think about. I do think the reading books is good, but you also will need to see an MC, someone that maybe specializes in sex issues. I don't think you're screwed at all...I do think the OM in your sitch is toxic to you and your M, and you don't sound completely over him from your recent posts.
