I know it's possible that my wife is having an affair of some sort with this man - or even another, but my gut just doesn't say so. And...my wife has always been the kind of person who believes two people can be friends regardless of their sexes. I believe she would be honest about it, since in her mind we are "only living together" and are only a "pseudo couple" - and she would feel no need to hide a new relationship.
Anyway...at this point, I think I have to go with my gut, but do a little snooping and keep the possibility in mind. At least I told her the truth about how I feel regarding either of us in relationships of any kind at this time.
Notes from the weekend. I made one of my goals - wife touched me for no reason. Nothing major - but still worth noting. She has a real issue with physical touch between us, and on 2 occasions yesterday, gently touched me in passing when not required.
I did some thinking and believe it's time to hit the reset button. I am going to really focus on a few of the db basics that I know worked last time - I think they are on Sandi's list: end the conversation, leave the room first, etc.
I really need to work on the positive body language. Going to do some self education on that today.
I also need to create some mystery. I am a creature of habit and a loner who likes to be at home. I need to force myself to not always be where she expects me to be. I need to GAL outside my home. I don't want to do things that aren't really me (changes for real - not just for show) but need to expand my horizons.
Busy work week coming up. Wife and I will barely see each other. I think that's a good thing. Being around her too much, makes me want more and I think she feels that. I come across as needy. Time to change that to needed.
