You've gotten excellent advice here from Trapt and Grace O.

Be the woman our children can look up to and be proud of. Forget the OW-completely..she is NOT the issue. Focus on YOU!!!!

Re-read DB and practice it, daily! Doesn't matter if you ex is here or there. Its about YOU. See this divorce as an opportunity to learn something about YOU.

Learn to be patient, b/c if you learn anything in this reading posts on this forum is that patience is what it takes.

M44 H46 T21 Married 16y
D14 D12
Bomb 12/08(EA), (PA/Separation)1/09 to 5/09
Home/MC 5/09 to 12/09
Leaves 12/09 Files for Divorce
Divorce final 6/30/10.