I'm sorry you are getting a bad experience on here. There are people on here that are hurt and are hurting just like you. We can see things you don't see because we have "been there" and are looking now with hindsight. I've found that you have to really listen to what people say, even if you don't agree, realllly ponder it, and then ultimately only you know your situation and only you can know what to do.
You said you saw Fireproof. That is an amazing movie. I watch clips on Youtube off and on to remind me of some things. Have you considered Retrouvaille? My H and I went there and it was a turning point for us. Google "retrouvaille" and you will find info. on it.
