Last resort technique, what to say?

[billclay18]

Puppy,

Wouldnt this make my W even more angry at me? She asked me a month ago if we could keep things the way they are until she gets out of school in December.

Yes, this will make her angry...so what? To whose benefit is it that you don't sever finances? If not yours...what are you waiting for?

What do you want...her to respect you or not be angry at you?

If I do this now, I know it will get very messy.

Separation is messy, D is messy...life is messy. The only way it won't get messy is if you cave in hoping it will affect the outcome...which it will, just not the way you want it to.