Newbie.....dealing with a MLC'er....

[sleeper]

I will appreciate any advice that anyone may have.

Re: missing visitation with your son/expecting you to accomodate. You must be the adult in the is sitch but find a way to not come ascross as the parent (hers). Telling her you did this so you can't do that sounds like a parent. This will trigger resistance or worse on her part. Hold your ground and do what you think is best but find a gracious way to do it.

Protect yourself financially. If she runs out of money she may attempt to gain custody if only to get funds (child support) from you. Document, document, document things like her missing visitation, etc.

Don't let that kind forgiving part of you interfere with what you know is best for you and your son.