UPSIDE DOWN - still struggling, trying to detach

[Eskimo Nell]

Sanderika,
That's a surprise visit! Didn't think that you would be back so soon - you are looking after yourself, right?

I ostracized myself from the majority of my family many years ago - all excepting my sister. You are right - being at peace with yourself and what you do is more important than anyone else's 2 cents worth, especially when they often have their own agenda.

Yes, I was interested in H's comment about the furniture (no need for an apology btw - our postings are so long and complex sometimes, no wonder people miss things or get confused)!!

I hear you on H leaving. He's so adamant that this was not about ow but I think that is just him trying to cover his guilt, protect the tramp and hammer it home to me that he is done and it's about nothing else - therefore, leaving the door firmly closed and no reason to negotiate forward from. I envy you being able to accept what your H did - I know that if I live to be 350 years old, I will never accept this - I may forgive him but I will never accept it ... if that makes sense. I will always have that scar, however deep I manage to bury it.

I too wish that Michele would write a book just for LBSs - perhaps we should put that to her - it's not like she would be lost for material or case studies, is it?!!

I'm certainly not pushing the valuation - that was him the week before last but I've heard nothing more. I am praying that was yet another bluff but I am ready for him, if not. That doesn't do very much to get my engine revving now as I have worked out the solution to that scenario. I will be cross if he does go through with it but I shan't react, at all. No point when I can totally 'check mate' him! Ah, working again gives me some power back at my finger tips!!

I am certainly keeping the positives front and centre - I have good news to report today ... keep reading but I must first answer Bill's post!!

Take care Sanderika (((hugs))).