Yeah, I hate to say it, considering what my W does for a living, but I think MC is kind of a joke. DBing is FAR MORE effective. Marriage counselors want you to just talk about how you feel, how you feel, how you feel. Far more effective is to just be a better person and a be more attractive! A spouse will overlook a lot of little annoying things if they are fundamentally attracted to you. If they start to lose their attraction, every little thing becomes a big thing. The marriage builders web site also gives excellent advice, not for DBing, but for keeping your M healthy and happy.
I think a good question each of us should ask ourselves regularly is "If I was my W, would I feel lucky and proud to be M to me?" If the answer is "Not really" then get to work on yourself. I think many M problems are not problems in the M, but rather with the individual spouses.
