While H had the kids this afternoon, I got a text from D saying that H has threatened to stop paying for her horse's boarding and I also wasn't notified that H left the kids alone(I wasn't home). Maybe he told them to notify me.
I didn't reply to D's TM because I felt it would be interfering and not for me to do anything about. I find out later from D that H said that to her because she started discussing the S and she walked out on him at a restaurant because she said he was insulting me. She didn't tell me what the insults were. She said he said he'd make me pay for her horse's boarding--which I can't afford and she knows that. That's just cruel. The horse means everything to her--and he knows THAT. WTH! She wanted to know why we weren't talking to each other and he said we are. ?? He mentioned though that I didn't go to the counseling and that he respects my decision not to go. All I know that he was told that I was hesitant to go. D said she wanted him to know that I'm not the angry person he says I am and that we are all over it and he needs to get over it and come back home.
I've explained to her that it's not her responsiblity to fix the situation several times before and repeated it again. I also heard from D that S was saying he hated H and they were arguing too. It did end okay though. D said they played video games and that H mentioned that he's like one of the characters gets low on energy, but gets revived when she hugs him. I used that to let her know that he needs lots of love right now too.
I usually don't probe the kids for info on their visits with H, but I didn't like hearing that he was threatening her with something so out of bounds. Ugh. I just see it as he was trying to control her and get her to stop questioning him. She said he semi-apologized by saying she should have not walked out but said that it wasn't fair to insult me when I wasn't there to defend myself. So strange.
I'm still sticking with NC. I'm seeing why it's best not to hear from the kids about their visits with H. It's confusing.
M40, H39 M17 T20 D13, S12 H moved out 05/09 D filed 1/10
