At least I am all better now which is good can eat normally again, yay.
With regards to H being abusine, he isn't an abusive person but can and has over the years played the mental games with me mostly in part due to jealousy and insecurities in that regard.
On the whole we are doing really really well, I would say that the intense hands all over you phase has now eased off a bit and we are now in the happy to be with each other phase, sharing some activities and cuddle time etc on sofa at night, conversation flowing easily and ML is now a priority.
We have spent another lovely weekend together going out on the motorbike and have decided to go down the path of buying a holiday house (nothing special) down on the coast. Found a perfect one in a town called Venus Bay (Cas you may have heard of it). Very peaceful right near the surf beach. Just what we wanted in order to go to of a weekend. We are enjoying doing some different things together even simple things as having a coffee together and just chatting, something that we no longer did.
Sometimes it is those simple gestures and time spent that can be the most precious.
We are now spending much more quality time together something we have not done in many many years. For the first time in those years I can actually say I feel content and happy and H is content and happy.
H on the phone yesterday whilst we were out, female friend who had been telling him on a number of occasions why D is not the answer asked "how we were going", H's reply "absolutely fantastic".
H now openly will have a phone conversation in front of me, car key permanently at the front door, has removed all items of clothing and toiletries he had in the car and returned them to the house. Life is truly great and I am thankful to all who supported me here and thankful to the powers that be in the spiritual sense who have given me strength to keep going and for the return of my H.
We are better people now I think, more respectful of the other as to needs and feelings.
I can honestly say my "Divorce is Busted".
I will never take my H or our R for granted again, you do have to work at it and nurture it.
