I'm very pleased to see how things are going w/you and bf. This is the type of story you need to make sure to let Michelle know as she'll put it in one of her books.
You said that neither you or bf think what you were doing was why he decided to come back, but I really think you are selling that short. When you DB, you focus on you and place yourself in a better, more healthier position to be in a relationship.
When you were doing that, he was absolutely noticing. He saw you moving on w/out him and it forced him to look at his own situation. All of this may have been on a subconscious level, but it is the reason they come back in the end.
If you had stayed the same, he wouldn't have done what he did. The changes in you forced the changes in him.
And now, we are all seeing how wonderful it is when things work out and you two are back together!
