I understand the need to vent, but by now, you also know that we make more of the ow/om than there usually is.... secondly, it may have been just a coincidence that he was late on a particular night.... HE STILL CAME HOME! I'm not saying he didn't stop by a drink either, or a happy birthday wish, we won't know..... so as I've already hinted at, the focus will be that he came home all week, regardless of what week it was.
This is something you already know, and as it seems you have already decided, I'm just going over the same ground, to make sure it's nice and firm.
You are doing a lot of talking, and that is remarkable, so there's no R talk, but the best Rs come from a steady base, one built on friendship, and that's what you are making... the rest will come, in time, and unfortunately, you don't get to decide when it will get there..... but that's why all the previous lessons on patience.... and giving up control.... and acceptance.
Laughing, ahhh, now, that says it all... they say laughing helps the healing process.... it's good for the soul.
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you.........
