A Little Epiphany - (and a newbie delurking)

[Dia]

Thank you, Gardener. I was afraid I'd come off sounding patronizing over there, so glad to hear it went over well. I hope H agrees with you on the 'lucky' part.

It's kind of funny - in the 1.5 years of counseling, we talked precious little about my M but I've learned so much with all the other stuff we covered that it's made my skills for being in a M so much stronger. It's improved my work skills as well, and it's all about having and stating boundaries, and dealing with conflict.

In the whole issue with our accountant, she griped to the CEO that 'it wasn't fair' that she's working 80-100 hours and I'm only working 50-60 when things get hairy. Well, that's because I told the CEO point blank that while I would pitch in and work extra when there was a need, I would also set limits and push back when I needed to. And I diplomatically let the CEO know that if pushing back was a problem, this wasn't going to be a good fit employment-wise. I will also tell the CEO things like "I can't do X *and* Y by that deadline, so which one do you want?"

So as far as I'm concerned, if the accountant doesn't want to work 80 hours, all she has to do is... not do it! Fair doesn't come into it. I will not sacrifice my physical, emotional or familial health for a job. If accountant chooses to do so, that's her choice.