Hi Ashlee I've been sort of off the boards a bit here....sorry about that. Busy and I can't log on at work anymore either....new security crap there that tracks so I don't need coworkers in my biz!
Let me ask you something....First let me explain. My H's ex-OW is now gone. More than 200 miles away. They are still texting on a regular basis because Drama Queen is what she is and he's still answering. I know she starts texting him, he never initiates contact anymore. But he is definitely responding. Does it make me mad? Sure. Do I want it to stop? Absolutely. Do I know I can beat out this stupid little slut? Damn right. I know that as annoying as it is that they still communicate, eventually and even sooner as opposed to later, it will end. Both will get bored with the other and the situation and it will pretty much die a slow and uneventful death.
For a while there, I was FURIOUS when I figured out there was still contact. I now know the contact is about the most boring, mundane crap that I'm not sure why either makes the effort. But I also know the crap he "talks" to her about, he's actually speaking to me about first....like his day, something funny that happened, blah blah blah.
It also makes it easier to let go and shrug my shoulders when I really pay attention to his efforts toward us and our relationship. For awhile there, when I was pissed about it, I lost track of it, then as we were b!tching at each other about it, he stopped making effort which made things worse, etc.
A good friend asked me "Is it possible you just want too much too soon? Can you be a little more patient?" And she went on to say, I understand if you can't but if you can, why not try that? Wait it out, see what happens. So that's what I'm doing.
I admit it might be easier for me because I have no concerns he's going to see her. That's a pretty big one and if I did, I'm not sure what I would do.
