Can our marriage work out?

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BM, I'm glad to see you on this forum. You'll a lot of great advice here, and a sounding board and sharing ground for the months ahead.

It'll take time but just look at the great strides you already made in just the last week. From being in utter despair and breaking down, with a WAH who was unrepentent and unwilling to give up his extramarital life, you've become stronger and started making changes and standing up for yourself - and he has noticed!

(in case, it's not obvious, I'm the one who recommended this site to you; I don't post here much, but I'm around :)). Continue reading DR, LL and Love must be tough, and working on yourself. You'll be able to tap into a much wider range of views than my own limited attempts, even if most of the folks on here are 12 time zones away. Your H has some distance to go to work on the M with you, but you're already in a much better place than many; don't shut him out completely. Forgiveness and trust can be built in time and you need to focus on your priority of ultimately having a happy M. Do your part and leave it to God.

And definitely don't forget the next Retrouvaille weekend; I think by that time, you will have healed enough for it to be a very meaningful and helpful experience.

Good luck, and I'll keep you in my prayers.