Oh I'm so sorry FG. I'm so glad you and your kids are okay! Scary stuff.
"Certainly, I suspect H would prefer if I'd died there."
Don't be so sure, FG. I think like you said, he just was probably overwhelmed and didn't know how to act. I would suspect that the possibility of losing his kids AND you would probably weigh on his mind pretty heavily.
I hope you are feeling better.
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