e, you're not being civil in order to make it be any better for your marriage right now. You're doing it for two reasons:
a) It's The Right Thing to Dol; and
b) It decreases your own stress and anxiety, and helps you out emotionally.
One of the hardest things for betrayed spouses to do is to not over-read their wayward spouse's good modes and nice interactions. They can mean something, but they can also mean nothing or even mean something NEGATIVE (like wife just got OM fix, so she's in a good mood). It's imperative to continue to learn to operate from a position of The Right Thing to Do, and to continue to implement your own Plan (GAL, legal & financial protections, etc.).
