Didi, for what it's worth....I agree with you about not telling your H. Nobody knows him as well as you do, and if you are protecting him from farther pain, then I see no reason to put him through that. I personally do not see any good that would come from informing him that OM tried to contact you and it sure could make matters worse. As long as you do not see it as a "cover up" in case you might change your mind toward OM (know what I mean).
Sandi, with all due respect, I don't think the most important thing is how SHE sees this lie of omission. The most important thing is going to be how her HUSBAND sees it, if he finds out about it, and I'm betting he'll see it as another reason not to trust her, and it will destroy trust and intimacy between them, which is NOT what they need right now.
In my opinion, the "good" that can come of it is a deeper level of trust and intimacy.
