my W doesn't regret her affair

[GH31]

Hello again Future,

I'm not sorry about the 2x4s and neither is Puppy.

I am however, sorry that you have to find yourself on this board.

You know you need them; understand that it's not an act of aggression against you - we really do want to see your family put back together.

This is so bloody hard.

I know. It's Hell; both Puppy and I realise that and have lived it.

I have sent her a strong message that if things don't change, I'm pushing for a divorce

You haven't son. You've sent her an equivocal message. Your actions have said anything but what you have written, from where we are sat.

but I also understand what you're saying. My actions are not clear.

See above.

My W is very charming, and we get along so well.

Your W has to be to ensure she gets both her family and thrill needs met from you and OM. How well did you get on before she realised that OM couldn't/wouldn't meet all of her needs as she first believed?

My W is also extremely charming and beguiling. I have to be very careful not to mistake charming for manipulative i.e. so that my W can ensure she gets all of her needs met from me whilst taking me for a fool at the same time. I would not say the same thing about anyone else's wife on here but I know enough about my own to have arrived at this conclusion.

Please proceed with caution Future and ensure you're not on the receiving end of some very cleverly calculated smokeblowing. This is the toughest thing you will have to deal with in your life. Enforce those boundaries that you've laid down. I bitterly regret not enforcing the ones I laid down to my own W and have paid for it dearly.

best

GH31`