After re-reading my post I realize that the tone was not as great as it might have been, and I don't want to take away from an act of courage to reach out and to seek support from others. The fact that my premise was "This may sound harsh, but..." should have told me to make it so it wasn't harsh!
I do think it may be important to really take some time and reflect on the things that allowed for an A to happen in the first place, for not only a WAS, but for all of the LBS as well. This isn't about finding fault or blame, but about understanding what was going on that allowed the M to be less than A-proof. For me there has been nothing more frustrating than the "I don't knows," or "just happened" answers when I've tried to understand what was going on that led to lack of satisfaction within the M, lack of respect, breakdown of communication; it doesn't help with forward progress.
If each of us-- regardless of which side of the coin we are or have been on-- works to get beyond the notion that things just happen, we might find ourselves in a place of not only better understanding of our stories, but a better sense of empowerment and control. It is my belief that if you're down the wrong trail and feeling lost, one of the best ways to find your way to the right trail is to figure out where you took a wrong turn.
In summary, I want to apologize if I came across as disrespectful to anyone's journey. I also want to honor Distracted for coming here and for trying to heal the M. My suggestion is to make a habit of doing daily positive affirmations/prayers, "acting as if," they will come true, to manifest those things in your life. I also would reflect on what led to the turns down the wrong trails before, so when those manifestations occur, things are in place to support right turns going forward! Good luck and keep the faith!
Good luck and keep the faith! 