ACJ, Same here. I don't think my ex would ever want me back either. I am stronger than ever and that would just scare him. OW really is perfect for him......
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
ACJ, You always have choices, ACJ. You can always have dreams and fantasies too. There is nothing wrong with that. Wishing for what could have been or what might happen positively with our ML'ers is healthy. You get into trouble if you dwell or obsess on the dreams and distort them with reality. I have a God that allows the impossible to happen, who can restore what was. That may or may not be the plan he has for me. My life is in limbo. I am just waiting for God to show the path I will take. I can't control what I dream, I am simply just sharing them.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
ACJ, e. My life is in limbo. I am just waiting for God to show the path I will take. I can't control what I dream
I feel exactly the same way... in limbo and MORE importantly I too am waiting for GOD to show me my path. In EVERY avenue of my life. I am not waiting for x to come back - nor am I waiting for him NOT to come back. I LOVE how you put that T.
M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06 Moved out 3/12/07 D final 7/30/2008 finding myself again
For me that was the biggest torture of all. however we all deal with things in a different way. I've chosen to move on completely. It wasn't an easy decision just like I'm sure your decision to keep standing for your XH was.
The important thing is that we both know what we want from our lives. Not so sure our Xs do though.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
I respect any decision you make. We all have our choices. One day, I may just wipe my ML'er out of my mind and heart. I still don't have the green light on this though from my maker. All I know is that no matter what, I will continue to live my life and grow to the best of my abilities. I will love my children and be open to anything that is out there.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
All I know is that no matter what, I will continue to live my life and grow to the best of my abilities. I will love my children and be open to anything that is out there
I think that's a very good statement for anyone to live by
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
Well my son called me last night from college. Ex and bimbo brought my youngest daughter with them to Disney and wanted my son to join them for most of their vacation since he lives so close to Disney.
He said he wished they would have never come to visit. He said ex and OW just expected him to drop his life and entertain them. Son said they were so needy and when he could not do what they wanted, ex told him how dissappointed he was in him.
Son said he felt he was babysitting.....
Ex texted me twice last night indicating to me he was almost back in town. He wanted to drop the baby off at 7 this morning. He had originally told me he would be home at night so I decided to work today. I told him, "Sorry, that does not work for me. I will pick the baby up at daycare at around 5 or 6." He was pissed. He wants what he wants when he wants it. I am no longer catering to his every need and whim. Bring the tantrums on......
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
