But I honestly break my own rule on that. I pray everyday that God makes me a better man, allows my wife to see that and allows her heart to let me in again.
Who is to say that God is not doing just that? You have to admit that you have already become a better man! Just think what you will be like by the time God gets you all polished up!
As for your W and God allowing you to be in her heart again, that is something that will be done in God's time. Since your W (and every human being) has free will, God won't over-ride her volition, but I've seen Him put a "want to" in people's hearts and therefore, I believe that He can help your W to feel love for you. In fact, I know He can.....but as you hear over and over again....it takes longer than you want it to.
You are doing good. You are going to get through this.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!