Puppy I did a mini confrontation about OW--H was here friday to work on house. I told him I knew there was OW but I wasnt mad--told him I want him to be happy, that it wasnt about the OW but about us letting our marriage deteriorate to the point he needed comfort elsewhere. Did not beg him to come back or plead just told him I understood how it could happen. This is really a 180 for me as he expected I couldnt handle it and would be a "crazy bitch" about it. He was shocked to the core of his being. I really meant what I said. He stayed the night--we watched a funny movie, he slept next to me, we tried to ML (some issues there either post heart attack or related to affair--i dont know)the next morning. HE stayed and worked on the house more.. and we had an easy relaxed day. I probably did everything wrong re DB but I was tired of the gorilla in the room and I am not going to be angry or bitter. I feel sorry for how much pain he is and was in. I thanked him for being honest--of course he really wasnt as I brought it up but it is probably as close as it will get. I didnt stay completely away from R issues as I should have
