Well, I watched Fireproof again last night and I really like the movie. I see some similarities to DBing, but there are some glaring differences too. Obviously, I can be patient, hold my tongue (no snide remarks) around her, but have either of you (or anyone else reading) figured out how to do both?
How to hold your tongue and be patient? Well, you have to understand what unconditional love is. Since you are religious (I am too), then you know what that is. It is unselfish. It does for another just to do, with no expectation.
So, you exhibit/model unconditional love (which in my opinion is redundant since true "love", by definition, is unconditional) by being around her with a positive, loving attitude. No snide comments, nothing done in anger. And, NO EXPECTATIONS.
One thing though. Love does not mean you are a doormat.
Patience is something you have to work at. I do NOT come by this trait naturally, and I have had to work at it.
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How does the WAS see the changes you are making if you hardly ever see eachother?
You look and act your best when you ARE around her. You work on having the best relationship you can with your kids (which you should do anyway). In short, you become the best YOU possible. But, you have to understand you have no control over your W. She may see your changes or she may not. But, either way, you win b/c you are improving yourself.
