I made that answer a lot shorter than I could have. I have to tell you that coming from a Church going family that I had a lot of spiritual conviction going on in my heart. That was one reason that led me to search the web for some type of help. I was so torn and confussed. I knew I was wrong, but felt so powerless. I found a site that was suppose to be a Christian support site, but all they did was crack jokes back and forth. I was so angry and frustrated that I gave up.....but it all worked out good b/c I found DB. I was blessed to have people (the right ones) to talk to me straight about the chemicals going on in my brain and how the EA was addictive and what kind of man my OM really was......and that was a shock to me, I suppose b/c of the frame of mind I was in.
Thank God I was not attacked by some real bitter and resentful LBS or I may have ducked tail and run for the hills. Guess that is why I try to encourage a WAW when one comes here.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!