Going straight forward...antlers 5th thread.

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I understand antlers. This whole process takes a very heavy toll on one's self-confidence.

"Learned Optimism" is a great book. Coach actually recommended it to me. It teaches you how to change your perspective and attitude from being pessimistic to optimistic. It also explains how people become depressed - essentailly it is the product of "learned helplessness."

I think the quicker you realize there are other fish in the sea (and I'm not saying you have to hop back in the saddle before you're ready), the sooner you will be able to let go of your W.

It feels good to be wanted and popular. Get out there and find that. It IS there for the taking.

Agreed, and it has.

Sounds like a good and helpful read.

I don't doubt that GIMA, it's just that...it's hard to choke it down that 'this' is the woman I married and she really has and is doing the stuff that she has/is! I've been married for a long time, and I've been out of the game for a long time. I know there are other fish in the sea...I just wanted her. So, finding somebody else helps you to let go of your spouse?

I'm sure it feels good, it's just hard to get out there and find it, even if it is there for the taking. Memories, feelings, emotions (especially negative and painful ones), regret, remorse, etc....they are hard to deal with and get over.