Understood, but nearly everyone in these situations DOES let it hit them in the self-worth department...hard! And the question remains...how does one get their self-worth built back up after being blatantly rejected like LBS are?
For me, it was about rebuilding a pretty battered self esteem. No doubt that your confidence has taken a huge hit. Question is whether you are going to let it knock you out or are you going to get back up off the mat and push on?
So, for me, I rebuilt a newer, stronger self esteem by:
-getting back into shape (I recall you ride a lot, so that should not be a problem for you) -taking pride in how I looked - I was not a sloppy dresser before, but now, I take a little more time in dressing right. You can still look nicely dressed in even a pair of jeans. -reading "Learned Optimism" by Martin Selingman. -Focusing on my R with my kids. -flirting with women every chance I get. -Smiling at strangers as I pass them by and saying hello -striking up conversation with strangers (waiting in the grocery line, at the dry cleaner or the bank -when I am around children, I act like them - play and talk to them like you are a child. -Stopped worrying about what my W might do/say/not do/not say -Stopped worrying about my W's reaction to what I may do/say. Instead, I do what I think is the right thing to do. -Realized that there are many, many other women out there who are (a) nicer and (b) better looking than my W (Still love my W). Thus, even if I end up D'd, my like isn't over and I'll be just fine, thank you. -Got back in touch with my religion.
So, I don't know what the answer for you will be. These are what did it for me.
