I tried a few unsuccessful times to contact the X via email and phone call. She ignores (no response) the emails and the voice mails get unreturned. Trying to get my D for my BDay on Monday and see how she is doing.
Bc she was not returning any communication, I thought she may have recently talked with her atty. I told my atty the X was not doing well with the make up of visitations specific to the court order. The X also does not want to continue the court ordered counseling. It was to continue until the counselor deemed it was no longer needed. We went previously and the counselor said we still had lots of work to do. Esp bc the X has been so verbally abusive, rude, disrespectful, etc. I feel like we def need it whether she wants to go or not. I wish she did "WANT" to go, but if we have it in the court order, maybe that will help some with her anger and our interaction.
I sent an email with a pic of the Halloween outfit I got my daughter so she could see it.
The X responded and said it was cute. She texted me later and asked me to contact her. We played phone tag a few times before managing to talk. She wanted me to keep my D Sat overnight bc they are having a baby shower for one of her friends. I debated the issue (w/n myself) bc I don't really want to just accommodate her to be able to go out and live the "single life" or go out with other guys per se. But, I do want to be able to spend the additional time with my D. We were trying to figure out the times and she said think about it and call her back after work.
Anyway, the X was surprisingly nice. WOW. It pretty much took me back. It melts my heart when she is nice bc it is such an anomaly. She sent me an email noting a suggested time. I kind of ignored the email as to not respond so quickly and feed into that. When I left work, I had planned to call her and before I could she actually called my phone. Again she was extremely nice and we were able to generally talk for a few additional minutes about my D. WOW again, we have not been able to do that. We agreed on the time and hung up on a positive note.. yay!
I was telling her on the phone I wanted to get my D on Monday afternoon / evening to go to dinner. She asks me why is it a special day?. what's going on? I just said nah... just going to dinner. If she doesn't know when my BDay is.. Telling her is not going to help her. I assume she knows and it is a way to get at somebody.
I went to pick up my D today and of course I am still required to stand on the porch. The X and I did not really conversate at all. Just picked up my D and consume myself with giving her hugs and kisses. The X stands there for a minute and asks D for a kiss bye and returns inside the house. Hope this gets better..
I guess I wonder bc the X has been nice on the phone is this a positive step? Is this movement in the right direction? Will she return to only revert back to her behavior? Was she being nice bc she is attempting to manipulate me into keeping my D on her terms? Any thoughts?
