Sorry Pup, I am not the most eloquent of writers. My criticism is directed at the violating third party not you or anyone on this forum...
I have been following this forum for a very long time and I have seen some scathing posts from yourself as well.
Affairs aren't something to get sentimental about. I have as much respect for someone who has an affair and ENDS it to return home as I do for the spouse left abandoned at home who decides to fight for his partner.
Unfortunately affairs have consequences...lack of sex is one of them. Absence of sex is something BOTH spouses experience and both should support each other through.
The whole affair story is tragic...but more start up every day...
That's certainly not my fault..I detest affairs.
whatdidido...I am sorry for what you are going through...as I said the same thing is happening here...no intimate contact...for a very long time...much longer than you in fact.
It takes a LONG TIME for many spouses to get to a point of comfort again.
Ending the affair in your head and heart is the first step to getting there...you will get there...you and your husband have to do the work and support each other on those difficult days...
