[Gardener]

neversaydie,
Yeah, I remember a few which I don't agree with.
Even if your spouse is NOT having an affair, begin dating immediately.
Agree to everything - everything - your spouse says.
And a few DBish suggestions but like I said, mostly rambling, repetitive crap.
Threaten to sue wife's IC, if she has one and MC if you went to one , for contributing to the dissolution of the marriage.

I forget the logic, if any, behind this one. However, I did threaten this in our first Divorce Mediator meeting because I know her IC had been pushing her to divorce, get her own life for over two years and because I suspected at the time that my wife may have been seeing our MC (!) but I unearthed no evidence even with phone bills and a PI.

Interesting thing, though, when I announced my intent to sue, my wife went into sheer panic, begging me not to, offering to show me her diary entry of when and why she finally made the D decision (?). Couldn't make heads or tails of it but the sheer panic was telling. Of what I still don't know.

Sorry for over-answering your question and rambling on, but I'm real good at that.