I agree with your father. I think your H should drop the papers off when you are not there. You can then read them at your leisure, get input from whoever you like, etc.

I don't think a sit-down with him is a good idea either. Too much chance for things to go hairy.

The trouble with having an open mind is that people put things in it.

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