brkn, I feel your frustration....that is the nice thing about this site, we have all gone through the same things more or less.
"I just hate having to play these games, feels like teenage dating shenanigans" I guess at times it can feel like a game...you must be referring to making yourself scarce. What you are trying to do is twofold: to create some kind of "nostalgia" in the WAS and more importantly in my opinion; to work on yourself. You sound like you are keeping busy and that is important. The book also says to monitor what works but you need to give it some time.
"I have people telling me different things, lord knows which one is right"
The hard truth is that there is no right and wrong,,,,,the only right is that you take advantage of this difficult time for you to grow as a person. One day if you are one of the lucky ones that gets a second chance, your WAW will see and notice a new and improved brkn. There is a possibility that you never get that chance .... the new you will benefit someone else.
until then brkn...there will be huge ups and downs....hang in there and listen to what the folks on here are saying. Decide what is best for you and keep fighting for what you want. But be ready for a LONG battle. We all make the mistake of monitoring our so called progress by the hour....stay busy and stay positive...fix that brkn a little.
