LOL GIMA. Those dreams are a killer. I still have them on a semi regular basis. Some are so real I wake up breathing heavy with my heart pounding.

You guys are making progress. Your W talking about the "we" and "us" stuff you've related recently is a GREAT sign. It shows she's thinking as a couple even if she doesn't realize it.

I remember very vividly the first time my W said "we". We were having a discussion about our retirement plan at work and she said "we should go talk to a financial planner some time soon". And I just sat there almost speechless. If she's saying WE should talk to a retirement planner, then she must be thinking long term.

Just give her time and keep up the changes.


Hope4us

Me - 49, W 49
S22 & S18
Dday 9/4/07
W claims NC 4/7/08
8/29/09 - Divorce Busted. Lots to work through, but we're going to make it.