Aud, Matilda, and Jak, Thanks for the encouragement. I like the quote you shared, Aud. I've also heard a similar approach to fear described as inviting the devil to tea, instead of reacting in our usual ways.
I joined my W and a few of her friends for a night of latin dancing. The four of us took a 50 mile road trip to a venue in the next city. My W seemed happy that I chose to spend a Saturday evening with her. It was an enjoyable evening.
She helped me with my class moves last weekend. I'm learning the Hustle this month. It's a difficult dance, as the first step isn't until the second beat. She is complimentary of my dancing, and seems to have a higher opinion of my dancing than in past years. She enjoys dancing with ballroom dancers who have an appreciation for technique.
She had a tantrum one weekday morning. She gets frustrated about the uncompleted household chores, running out of certain household items, and fretting about money. She has been putting more effort into household cleaning on her days off (she works part-time). Her mother comes over weekly, and they spend some mother-daughter time keeping-up with household chores. I realized that my morning routine was going to be broken, let her vent, ran to the grocery store at 6AM to pick up some bread and milk, and helped her with some housecleaning. She threatened to stop letting the dog stay home one day per week, to help limit his daycare expense, but I wouldn't let her back-out of her commitment. She calmed down by the time I left for work.
She continues to spend several nights a week and part of the weekend running around with her friend. She called me late at night one evening, complaining that her friend was having a tantrum, and that she was taking a cab home. She got out of his car, and walked to the dance venue, in a rough neighborhood, and made arrangement with a friend for a ride home. She went out to dinner with her friend the next night. They never made it to the restaurant, as he got lost again, because he refused to use the GPS system, and forbid her to call me for directions.
Self-care activity this week included a church service, walking my dog most early evenings, dance practice with my W, dance lesson, my weekday dance venue, morning journaling, reading, morning stretching and exercise, and a Pilates class.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
