You are in a state of desparation and it shows big time. She doesn't need to see your when you are like this. You want to "fix" this broken R and you can't fix this like you would fix a flat tire on a car. Being the man you naturally are.....the fact that you can't find a quick cure to this stitch, is very difficult on you. But, the sooner you can calm down, the better you will be able to think properly. You don't want to screw up and make matters worse, right?
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she'll leave and I won't see her again possibly until next weekend if I don't pursue her at all. I feel like there is so much downward momentum that it is just sucking us in.
This is an example of how you are not thinking DB. You "can't" think when you allow emotions to rule! You should know that the number one technique in DB is no pursuing. I promise you this.....if you pursue her, she will see how quick and how far she can get away from you! Now is that what you want? Stop and use your head man.
Okay, so your family already knows about the trouble. So much for keeping it quiet, huh? Well, mom is hurting b/c this hurts you, and think how you would feel if it were happening to your D sometime in the future. It is hard on families.....even if it is your business, it is still painful on your loved ones.
Will you listen to something I have to say? Your W would have left you....regardless of how you may have handled the situation yesterday or the day before or the day after.....she was going to leave you. Stop allowing what she says to get to you. You are taking blame b/c she wants you to be the bad guy. Stop it. You've got to be your best friend.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
