Just a quick update here. Things seem to be warming up day by day. W initiates many conversations. Left a note for her on the dashboard of her car earlier this week (we did this early on in our M and when we were dating before that) to tell her I had had fun on our trip to Disney this past weekend and to tell her she looked great that morning. This was a big step, and I wasn't sure how it would turn out. But, she thanked me for the note and everything was normal with her.
My C at my last session recommended slowly beginning to invade my W's space. If I get a negative reaction, stop. So far, so good. I'm going to try to work in some hand holding or casual touches.
Monday is a significant day. Shortly after the bomb day, W said she would allow me time to make changes, but she "would not wait 6 months." Monday is the 6 month mark. And, she isn't running away from me.
So, when do you know you are "piecing"? Do you have to have a discussion about working on the M?
