Just journaling. She had called me around 5:45pm. She had asked where the tire pressure gauge was. Huh? I told her to look in her car and then she just says ok bye. Hum.....
Me:27 W:24 S:2 D:9 months M:3 years Together for 8 years Bombed : 6/11/09 Moved out: 6/27/09 Found out about her affair 9/7/09 (she started her's at 6/25/09) Begged n plead 7/25/09 started DB 8/17/09
Good sign. Stupid reason to call. Think of all the times you called her for stupid reasons and you know your motivation was just to hear her voice....and to sort of check in.
Good sign.
Keep it up. You have to. You can be strong. You have to.
Yup stronger it was. She had called again tonight asking if I can watch the kids tomorrow for a couple of hours so she can clean her place. I was going to a buddy's place and oddly enough she was coming over there also. She had asked him to look at her car.
I just told her ill talk to her when she gets here then. She gets here he looks at her car can't seem to find anything wrong with it. She asks me again and I said "well how about I come over to your place and watch them while you clean?". She didn't like that idea and started to have a fit. She then try to make other excuses that she has to run the bank and store also. I told her that's fine and we will just be at her place till she's done. She gets mad throws another fit and says fine I don't need your help.
I stood my ground again because last time she took advantage of it. She pouts and then leaves with my kids. I actually feel pretty good. I'm just glad I'm not falling for her trap. She's mad so what? Right.
Me:27 W:24 S:2 D:9 months M:3 years Together for 8 years Bombed : 6/11/09 Moved out: 6/27/09 Found out about her affair 9/7/09 (she started her's at 6/25/09) Begged n plead 7/25/09 started DB 8/17/09
Oh going to a haunted corn maze with the couples. Funny because she found out and came over here. I thought she might wanted to go because why else would she come over here? So I asked her she said no I don't have a sitter. And I just left it at that. We have gone to one every single year. So she must have missed it also.
Me:27 W:24 S:2 D:9 months M:3 years Together for 8 years Bombed : 6/11/09 Moved out: 6/27/09 Found out about her affair 9/7/09 (she started her's at 6/25/09) Begged n plead 7/25/09 started DB 8/17/09
She had said she didn't need me last night. After church today I get a text from her saying she is dropping the kids whether I like it or not. I stood my ground again saying if she needs my help I will come over there and watch the kids while you run your errands and clean your place. She refuses again. Same conversation again. Taking the kids away from me child support. I said thats fine if you want to play that game our lawyers can talk. I have records all of the events and times you have left me with the kids. She didn't know how to respond and just got into it with me again. She gets mad and hangs up on me.
The tables are turning and I know she doesn't like it. She doesn't like me standing up to myself. She is just going to have to learn.
Me:27 W:24 S:2 D:9 months M:3 years Together for 8 years Bombed : 6/11/09 Moved out: 6/27/09 Found out about her affair 9/7/09 (she started her's at 6/25/09) Begged n plead 7/25/09 started DB 8/17/09
Yeah I just don't trust her because of last time. And yes I didn't say no come to think of it. I feel good. I feel like I have the upper hand.
Me:27 W:24 S:2 D:9 months M:3 years Together for 8 years Bombed : 6/11/09 Moved out: 6/27/09 Found out about her affair 9/7/09 (she started her's at 6/25/09) Begged n plead 7/25/09 started DB 8/17/09
She called back about 5 minutes ago. Says that she doesn't have a babysitter. I called my mom she says no. I called my usual babysitter they said no. She calls back and says I found a babysitter a*shole!
The conversation went like this. She couldn't find a sitter as her usual sitter wasn't available. I told her now do you see we need each other? She screams in the phone I don't NEED you! I then tell her then why are you calling me then? She replies because your mom can watch them! Huh? Seriously this girl doesn't know what she is saying.
She keeps saying she doesn't need me or my family but she keeps calling me for help. I hope she sees what she is doing. It doesn't make sense to me. Very bitter. This time I didn't talk, back didn't scream back, and just told her to calm down. I was very calm and even when she was calling me names didn't say anything. Man I need a smoke.
Me:27 W:24 S:2 D:9 months M:3 years Together for 8 years Bombed : 6/11/09 Moved out: 6/27/09 Found out about her affair 9/7/09 (she started her's at 6/25/09) Begged n plead 7/25/09 started DB 8/17/09
She keeps saying she doesn't need me or my family but she keeps calling me for help. I hope she sees what she is doing. It doesn't make sense to me. Very bitter. This time I didn't talk, back didn't scream back, and just told her to calm down. I was very calm and even when she was calling me names didn't say anything. Man I need a smoke.
sg, good work. Good for you. If you've quit smoking, DON'T!
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
W: Hey I'm dropping them off 2 u this weekend...I don't care wat u say.
How do I respond to this?
I was going to write back. "I thought you didn't need my help?"
Me:27 W:24 S:2 D:9 months M:3 years Together for 8 years Bombed : 6/11/09 Moved out: 6/27/09 Found out about her affair 9/7/09 (she started her's at 6/25/09) Begged n plead 7/25/09 started DB 8/17/09
