Is my wife a WAW or is this a MLC? thx2brs

[are you kidding]

I love her and will always love her and I don't want my children to go thru the pain of a divorce.

But it has been very clear from everyone that knows me and her and she has stated, she knows I love her more than anything.

And I know times have changed, but she's running and running fast, this was a person that was dead set against a divorce up until this thing started.

I'm ok with a chance if I do what I need to do. I know the person I used to have and I pray like non-other that she returns at some point to those values and beliefs. Does that make sense?

[are you kidding]

At somepoint someone realizes how good they had it and could have it and would like to get to a comfort level or where they were comfortable and gets over the selfishness and goes oh my what have I done. Right?

[are you kidding]

If I stay strong and I put out that PMA and no quit attitude and love without saying I love and thrive. Will that increase the chances?

[are you kidding]

I mean why would you really want to start over with someone new, if you get thru your mlc and we're treated with respect and saw a strong person standing there when you were through with it.

Now in my case it's going to be tougher, being out of the house and stuff for her to see changes, but I guess can they feel the love vibe when you are around them?

[Jack_Three_Beans]

Holy Heck Twitterbug.

If I stay strong and I put out that PMA and no quit attitude and love without saying I love and thrive. Will that increase the chances?

Chances? I don't care about improving chances I care about things that hurt chances, ruin them in fact. This however...will not hurt your chances...and it is BETTER for you. It is one of the best things you can do.

[Jack_Three_Beans]

You're in a dangerous place for your mind.

You're asking questions about the future.

Be in the now. Knowing what you do or do not do hinder or help your future.

[are you kidding]

I know she needs my love more than I need hers. And that is an absolute fact.

For some reason I don't feel grief, but empathy...

I know I need to show my kids they have a dad that can take it to the chin and get back up...

I know she and everyone else needs to see a guy that isn't going to be broken down and desperate...

I've lived thru and I'm living thru something vs being a victim of it.

I pray like you wouldn't believe that she'll change her mind, she still hasn't talked to me.

My family knows she's filed on me and vs cutting her off like her family has me, they are still going to take her calls and talk to her, etc.

We had a good, but not awesome marriage and I know my faults and I've learned what I need to do better in whatever relationship I have in the future. But I keep praying that the love inside me and a lot of people praying turn this around before she breaks up a family. There is a lot about me she needs to know I'm capable of and can handle.

Like most of you, I'd like to give her a brochure on symptons of a MLC, I would have loved it if a cnslr had told her not to file until she gets thru this, but I realize I married a woman that always wanted to escape reality, be a matyr, and be able to do her own thing.

I've had time to look back on her and I.She is repeating a cycle that she always had,she always went to others vs me for support vs going to me.But in any of her relationships in the past that's what she did. Unlike the other relationships she got more from me than what she had gotten from others.

I loved and smothered her with things I didn't get growing up and now I no it was overkill.IE:Flowers every Tuesday,love notes in her car,everyday giving her a compliment vs saying you stupid idiot what are you doing. I lost a lot of my voice in our marriage,I am enjoying being nice no matter and I have my voice back.

I saw her yesterday, her head was down, mine was up and i was looking good. She set with my dad and I didn't ask him what came up. Had my son, he started to tell on his mom and I said I don't need to hear anything.

S lets just "enjoy this adventure."

[SoCo]

You sound good AYK. So much better than when you first posted. Keep your head up and keep looking good. I like your attitude! : ) (smiley face) Haha.

[are you kidding]

She has texted me twice and emailed me once, on minor kid stuff, she has not talked to me in over a wk and that wasn't a talk at all,that was her yelling at me.

I have not responded to them they weren't urgent and they were more of a vague attempt to look like super mom.

She is smearing me to the kids, i have not her and won't.

I'm giving her a lot of space.

I am the only one in my family that thinks this marriage can be saved.

Everyone is telling me she filed, she's done, move on.

I have a lot of faith in myself and her that she'll return to her core values.

[fisherman]

I am the only one in my family that thinks this marriage can be saved.

That's all that matters....if they won't support you, be kind and say no more.

Everyone is telling me she filed, she's done, move on.

At one point in time the whole freakin world told one man that the earth was flat. I'm glad he didn't listen.