I do appreciate the 2x4s, and I know I need them on occassion. I am trying to keep myself at a distance. This is a test for my W, to see how far back she's come. She was the one who said she needs to end it with OM if we're going to work on us, and I've made it clear the alternative is divorce. My boundaries have been soft over the last couple months as I've tried to rebuild our R. Everything seems to be coming to a head right now. I absolutely realize my W may still try to be wishy washy, and try to keep OM in the picture. I need to let this play out just a bit longer before I drop the big hammer and really go away. Given how we've been talking, it would seem random and moody to just disappear now.
