So my W brought up OM for first time (other than MC session) since she told me he was out of her life. I guess he sent her a long e-mail today with the subject line "I hate you". She said she deleted her e-mail and also the 3 voicemails he has left her today before listening to them. She has told her agency that she does not want to see him and gave the department that would have contact with him to one of her staff.
She says that he is stalking her and she wants nothing to do with him. I am sorry that she has to put up with this, but also happy she feels comfortable in opening up and sharing it with me. I really feel like confronting this guy; but still probably not a good idea.
This does not surprise me. I knew he was that kind, I just knew it, can't say why.
This is the voice of bitter experience.
Do not confront. Confronting is attention and that's what he wants. Do not feed it.
She is already doing exactly the right thing with No Contact, meaning not even reading his texts, etc. This is appropriate and healthy for her. However, I think documentation is a good thing. Do you have someone else (I don't recommend it be you) that she can fwd voicemails to or that can listen to them for her? I would say her lawyer. Can she discuss this with her lawyer and have this info sent to him?
The Gift of Fear is a good book that deals with stalker stuff.
Would you like some more resources for helping your wife handle this? Would she open to anything like that coming from you? Articles even?
