FWIW, if we're going to use the word 'abuse' for Thinker's arm-grab, then we should also use the word abuse (as in verbal/emotional abuse) for some of Mrs. Thinker's words and actions.
One woman's opinion - in my world, that single incident did not qualify as abuse. Wrong - yes. Out of line - yes. Abuse - no. And while I'm only one woman, I've been in - and left - an abusive relationship.
The trouble with having an open mind is that people put things in it.
My sitch - Divorce Busted! http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1804137#Post1804137