Just saw half my message above did not work? So just to quickly summarise my situation my husband and I met 20 years ago when we were teenagers an married over 17 years ago.We have 2 sons,one almost 16 and one 4.We have had arguments and friction through our entire relationship.I have read self-help books,been counsellors and we both had 2 sessions with a counsellor but he pulled out.I see alot of my trying to fix things had made them worse because he is telling me to leave him alone,stop talking,etc. He has changed in the last few years that could be a mlc teamed with just being stressed an fed up with fighting plus I have been sick and spent alot of time and money on tests and doctors and medication and that annoyed him and cause alot of fights and tenion. When he is at his angriest he has treatened a few times to leave and he stays for the kids sake. I feel things are at a point where it can all blow up. I see some sense in doing some 180's on my behaviours of pursuing and trying to fix things.I am needy and cant/dont get out much so if he is not giving me attention I can hound him until it ends up in a fight where he pulls away for days and I push more. I have more details on my thread http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...778#Post1856778 This weekend will be test for me if my 180 of holdong back worls or backfires and if I can keep it up.I am a bit worried about how far to go so he doesnt turn our barely talking etc situatin back on me. Also I would like to know other db experiences on when you are db-ing but so upset and angry even in the calm times your spouse irritates you and you feel incompatible.
